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Missing [Oct. 28th, 2007|06:00 pm]
Dear D., 

 It's a grey day here; occasional breaks in the pewter sky show that the clouds are thin, but they diffuse the light.  There is no heat in the air today, but it is not cold either. I have projects piled upon projects to occupy me: Harlequin, Santa Claus, Homework (what would a "Homework" costume look like, do you suppose?), Housework, cats and dogs requiring petting and companionship, a car that desperately needs cleaning, weeds to pull and grass to mow. 
 
I have stabbed ineffectually at each of these chores, done an hour's work here, then twenty minutes there, and each time I feel there is more to be done and less accomplished than when I started.  Knowing that my mood is temporary is small solace.  Knowing too that, had I left it behind to fly into your warm and enticing presence the chores would still await my return, does not keep me from desiring to be with you.
 
It's an ancient myth, that one's troubles will dissapate like thin clouds, once one is in the presence of the beloved.  It's all wrong, too -- but like the weeds that choke my flower gardens, it is a hardy perennial, and seductive in it's early promise.
 
So many words, just to say "I miss you."
 
But, I do. 
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Panhandle Park [Aug. 17th, 2007|09:36 pm]

The sign is new, and contrasts strangely with the tangled growth behind it. Blue and russet and metallic gold are not colors normally seen beside the roads of the Florida Panhandle.

"John David Patten Community Park", the sign proclaims.

A rutted track runs perpendicular to the blacktop highway. Pale sand beckons us through spindly pines and a few cypress trees. Tangles of grapevine and catbrier drape from the treetops, winding into ragged thickets of saw palmetto. I've always wondered how DeSoto and his sweating soldiers managed to get through such scratchy, stubborn, solid greenery.

Abruptly, the tangles end. John David Patten Community Park stretches out to our right; in front of us shines a new chain link fence. Inside it lurks a vast, cylindrical concrete tank with a domed top -- pumping station, perhaps? -- and its next-door neighbor, a water tower. Tower it does, three times the height of the teenaged pines. "Park" appears to be an afterthought: "We've got to clear out the area for that tower anyway, might as well do something with it."

Shining steel legs form the tower, holding the pale green reservoir up into glaring sunshine. It looks a little like a giant, newly harvested onion perched on legs intended for something else. The steel tubing is not much smaller in diameter than the pine trees, and the trees are almost as regularly spaced and engineered-looking as the tubes.

Gone are the intricate nets of vine, the palmetto and understory shrubs that whisper of life and lushness and wildness. Beneath these pine trees the ground is almost bare. The trees look exposed and vulnerable -- like an army of naked, skinny people standing in formation.

My companion says, with an edge of contempt, "Not much of a park, is it?"

We turn our back to the tank and tower. A tiny, neat wooden building with a peaked roof and its name, "Restrooms", sits on our right, a pale green island lapped by glaring new concrete. Bright blue "Handicapped" signs mark two parking spaces in front of it, with ramps. Beyond the restrooms, the concrete path continues, in carefully "natural" curves, to a log-built picnic shelter with brown asphalt-shingled roof.

Another blue-and-russet-and-gold sign on the edge of the concrete at the picnic shelter informs us that John David Patten was born in 1983 and died in 2005. He was a law enforcement officer, shot dead in the performance of his duty. This raw, unlovely place is dedicated to his memory.

 

 

 

I notice winding, mulched paths leading out among the spindly trees. Along the paths are plastic signboards which give brief synopses, with pictures, of the flora and fauna of the region. An open, rectangular area near the picnic shelter reveals sprinkler heads above bare mulch; looking closer I see that perennials have been planted here, the kind that attract butterflies when they are in bloom.

 

John David Patten must have been a popular guy, I'm thinking. Perhaps his family, working through their grief, planned and bulldozed and built what is here, then gave it to their town. Or maybe his death helped this little community come together, to realize that knowing one's neighbors is important and to do something about that. Parks are common ground on which we can find common ground with one another.

 

 

But, will we? Will anyone really make the effort to come to this place? Will they meet any neighbors if they do? I suspect the concept of "community" has been smothered by thick, modern insulation of television, automobiles and mega stores. We retain enough collective memory that we will act "in community" during a crisis. But the true test of community is what we do after the vines are cleared and the concrete poured and the shingles nailed.

 

I hope that the people of this small community will use their park, that they will walk the paths and keep the grasping vines from reclaiming this memorial patch. I envision a day when the butterflies dance among bright flowers, children race each other among sturdy, full-grown trees, and grownups greet one another by name beneath the sheltering roof.

 

Before the gold on these new signs has tarnished, I hope this park will indeed become a place of community.

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Good Orderly Direction [Apr. 4th, 2007|05:40 am]

Early on in our acquaintance, D. insisted on our doing the "Please Understand Me" personality typing quiz.  I thought it was interesting, and went along.  According to the test, we are almost perfect opposites -- which is supposed to be, counterintuitive though it is, a good thing.

I also scored high on "judgemental".  Not usually considered a good thing, at least not by those affected by it.  Including me.

And, twice in the past two days, I have been asked for directions, to destinations with which I am familiar.  Yet both times, after the requester drove away, I realized that my information had been less than helpful.  Not entirely wrong; they wouldn't get lost.  But  my info wouldn't get them to where they were going unless they asked someone else along the way.

Last night I attended my home group of AA, for the first time in quite a while.  I was reminded, gently as always, that I am not in charge of my life, and especially not in charge of anyone else's life.  That's my Higher Power's business.  I am merely the instrument,  trying to be helpful to others, and grateful for the incredible gifts I've been given.

These disparate thoughts coalesced this morning as I walked Daisy:  I tend to be judgemental, giving people advice on how they "should" do things, or silently shaking my head at the way they're conducting themselves.  Yet, I don't seem able to give very good directions to other people.  So why don't I leave that alone, let H.P. do the judging and directing, and just do the best I can to live my own life?

Good advice.  I think I'll take it.

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Does Anybody Know What Time It Is? [Apr. 2nd, 2007|06:15 am]
When the husband and I moved to North Florida to raise greyhounds, I quit a time clock-punching job that involved precision timing in the exposures of various materials to light.  I had gotten so that I could count down a thirty second, or a two minute,  exposure accurately, without the darkroom timer.  The hour and the minute and the second hands ruled my life.

I soon learned that, around greyhounds, wearing a good wristwatch was a bad idea.  It got caught on collars, doused with water, caked with dirt, scratched by puppy claws.  The life of dogs -- secret or not -- was ruled, anyway,  by the sun, not by the clock.  My  attempts to keep farm life running "on time" met with resistance, derision, and some painful lessons.  Slowly, I learned to worry less about what time it was than about the rhythm and flow of the days.  

I also got pretty good at telling time by the passage of it.  No longer in thrall to exact minutes, I could  (still can) check the angle of the sun, recall the last time I glanced at a clock, and opine "It's about three-thirty".  I'm usually no more than five minutes off.
And I still don't wear a wristwatch.

That, however, is going to have to change, at least for some events.  

During the Southeastern Theater Conference at the Atlanta Hilton in early March,  my frequent greeting to both friends and total strangers was "Hi!  Do you know the time?".  The hotel offered one public clock, in an obscure corner of the lobby. There were no windows in the meeting rooms.  I had appointments scheduled that required my being on time.

So, I've inventoried my timepieces.  The winner is an "Omega Automatic Seamaster" that belonged to my husband's father.  It has a large, round face with clearly marked hours, a sweep second hand, and a self-winding mechanism: no batteries, no spring. The flex metal band is damaged, though, and too large for my wrist.  I'll find a ribbon to make a band from, and the next time I'm entombed in a man-made environment, I'll know what time it is.
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We can't be that stupid? Watch us! [Apr. 1st, 2007|06:00 pm]

". . . . Add another 1.8 degrees and as many as 2 billion people could be without water and about 20 percent to 30 percent of the world’s species near extinction. Also, more people start dying because of malnutrition, disease, heat waves, floods and droughts—all caused by global warming. That would happen around 2050, depending on the level of greenhouse gases from the burning of fossil fuels. . . . . "

I've just read about the newest-released report on global warming, that latest of the scientific fads.

Now, don't get me wrong:  I believe that the exponential increase in humans, and human activity, have wreaked havoc on this planet, particularly in the last fifty years.  I have no trouble believing that temperatures are rising.  I suspect there is a lot of truth in the scientists' warnings of horrible disasters as the earth warms.

But I remember Paul Erlich and the overpopulation doomsayers of twenty-plus years ago.  By 2007, according to them, horrible consequences of uncontrolled human breeding would be unfolding.    My favorite commentary on this is a New Yorker cartoon showing people standing on miniscule squares, clear to the horizon.  A business-suited man is speaking to the woman in the next square: "I'm prepared to make you an outstanding offer for your square."  China, in fact, did change its ways in an effort to curb population growth. I've seen several articles in the past year warning that China will soon be a nation of horny young men without enough women to go around. 

In other words, everything has consequences.   The more we learn about ourselves, and the world, and the universe, the more potential disasters we discern.  In other words, science has found a new falling sky to cry about, a la Chicken Little.

Fact is, people --as a species, anyway -- are expected to survive global warming right along with the cockroaches. 

And the fact is that the primary culprits in this global warming debacle are America and Americans.  But, according to our leaders, America is always right, always on the side of the underdog, always willing to do whatever it takes to make the world a better place.  Yeah, right -- that's why we invaded Iraq, to make the world a better place.

I, personally, believe we invaded Iraq so that our economy would "recover". So that  most Americans could keep their SUVs rolling.  So that our position as consumers of more than half the world's collective resources by one fifth of its population could remain unchallenged.    If we, as a nation, are willing to send sons and daughters to die so we can maintain our present way of life,   what makes anybody believe we'll change our ways so that a couple hundred non-human species can live, so that a couple hundred thousand humans won't die of thirst or starvation? 

" . . . . 'The worst stuff is not going to happen because we can’t be that stupid,'  said Harvard University oceanographer James McCarthy, who was a top author of the 2001 version of this report. 'Not that I think the projections aren’t that good, but because we can’t be that stupid.' . . . . "

Sorry James.  I disagree.

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Something New [Mar. 31st, 2007|07:07 am]
After "journeying with no destination" for three years, J decided that we needed to get serious; after all, he was looking for a wife when he met me.  I was not, I'd informed him in the beginning, looking for a husband.  Three years had not changed that resolve.  So, we parted two weeks ago, as friends but with the proviso of no further communication.

I feel, if anything, relieved.  J is a dear, dear man and we had lots of interests and enthusiasms in common.   I am fast, broadminded, wry and ironic;  J is cautious, narrowly conservative, broad and ribald.   I pray that he finds a steady, loving woman to give him all he needs, but I am not that one.

J is an old-fashioned romantic; his daily emails were as punctual as sunrise.  I've spent three years breakfasting in front of the computer, munching toast and composing my daily replies.  In the two weeks since the sundering, I've breakfasted to the morning news and an occasional missive from family or other, less attentive, friends.  The most recent disaster does not enhance digestion for me, though, so I am hereby now resolved to start my day with LJ.

Of course, there will be gaps (is there a plural for "hiatus"?); there always are.   Semester's end is looming large; there are projects and classwork to be finished.  I'll be working for the Peach State Summer Theater again this year, honing my skills as a Draper and Patternmaker, with an eye to employment in an established regional theater when I graduate next May.   

That decision brings up plenty of peripheral projects:  house and yard to be fixed up for eventual sale or rent; possessions to be streamlined.  Next Saturday I'll be at the Georgia Renaissance Festival for the first time in two years, reuniting with Greyhound friends and their humans.   Sunday through Tuesday will be at Callaway Gardens (with D., a whole 'nother story) for the first time.

Maybe I need a laptop?  No, what I need is Self Discipline, that elusive character. SD is hereby invited back into my life.  We need one another.  
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Honey Wagon Blues [Feb. 16th, 2007|06:13 am]

When I bought this house, I knew from the bright green parallel lines of grass, and the feeling of walking on a bog in the yard, that the septic system was in dubious health.  The guy I bought it from seemed amazed to hear that a septic tank needs to be cared for; he assured me that it hadn't been pumped in the 20 years he'd owned the house and had given no trouble. But the house was going from seven people to one, I figured, and it should be okay for a while. In fact, I have had no trouble with it in the almost three years I've been here.  

I grew up with septic systems -- both functioning and not -- so I know that a tank must be pumped periodically.  I remember my  parents' edict during The Time of The Failing Drainfield:  "If it's yellow, let it mellow.  If it's brown, flush it down."  I don't want to have to live like that again.  So, it is time to have the tank pumped.

Thursday morning I played hookey from class and work,  waiting for the Checkered Flag Septic Service to show at 9:30; they finally got there at 10:30.  Found the tank, uncovered the lid (buried nearly two feet deep) and after banging away on it with their big spud, got it to move and pulled it up.  The tank was . . . .  F.U.L.L.  Right to the top; it's a wonder I didn't have stuff backing up into the house; I probably would have in another few weeks.  No roots, though, thank God.

They got their hoses out, started to pump it out, and with a horrible noise, the pump on their truck tore up.  Somebody managed to remember to close the valve, so the contents of the truck didn't run back into my tank (and yard, and neighborhood!).  Apparently some connection with the PTO had broken.  They requested duct tape (I guess it really does work for everything!), but I had none. They used wire ties (?!?) to do a temporary fix, but decided against running the pump again until they found and installed a replacement part, whatever it was.

So, I have a hole in my yard about half the size needed to bury a greyhound (I'm an expert on dog graves); they did replace the lid so nothing could fall in.  I'll leave the check on the gate for them this morning, in hopes they'll get back today and finish the job.  I think they're honest fellows.  I hope so.

And when I know that I have 1,000 gallons of empty septic tank to fill up, I'm going to wash a load of not-very-dirty clothes, just for the heckofit!

 

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No Condoms Here! [Feb. 12th, 2007|09:00 pm]
It was a wonderful weekend.  Drove to Apalachicola to visit D.; we went sailing, ate fabulous food, and I met most of his new, highly creative and interesting friends.

He had told me that his landlady drives exactly the same vehicle as D. does, a burnt orange Honda Element -- pretty distinctive.  He'd also told me that she was, until recently, the District Nurse for the county.  

As we were getting into his Element after a great dinner and a stroll around downtown Apalachicola, two slightly seedy looking twenty-something guys approached us.  D's response was immediate:  "No!  I am NOT the District Nurse, and NO, I don't have any!!"  The kids looked surprised, then walked away.  I must have looked even more surprised.

D.  explained his reaction.  Apparently, one of the District Nurse's duties is to hand out free condoms.
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And this just in . . . . [Feb. 8th, 2007|07:41 pm]
I am stepping out of my office, coffee cup in hand, homing in on that wonderful-smelling hazelnut coffee someone has made in the break room. Kitty is hurrying down the hall toward me, full of news: "Did you hear? She's dead!"

JoAnn comes up the hall from behind me. "Who's dead?"

"Anna Nicole Smith! They found her body in a motel room in Hollywood, Florida, dead as a doornail." Kitty is excited, and gratified, to be first with this bulletin.

I chime in: "Anna Nicole Who?"

"Anna Nicole Smith!" explains Jo Ann. "You know, Anna Nicole Smith," Kitty harmonizes.

"Who's that?" I ask.

Both of them look at me, pitying my manifest ignorance.  "She's that porn star that married a rich man, and . . . ." starts Kitty. JoAnn steps on Kitty's sentence "She has this new baby and everything, and I bet now they'll  find out who the father is . . . "

They slowly move their discussion off toward the reception area. I get my coffee. On the way back, I reflect that last fall, when I mentioned to Kitty and JoAnn that I had a part in Arthur Miller's play The Crucible, their only reaction was mild puzzlement: "Isn't that the guy who was married to Marilyn Monroe?" they wanted to know.
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Thanks, 47! [Feb. 6th, 2007|06:19 pm]
Hard to believe so much time has passed. It hasn't really been wasted, yet i'm hard-pressed to come up with anything extraordinary that's happened in the past month.

That is, perhaps, the real gift of "real" writers -- they can take the components of any ordinary experience: a trip to the grocery store, standing in line at the fast food joint, noticing the opening of Japanese Magnolia buds unseasonably early, and create a narrative that instructs, amuses, or opens our minds to the myriad wonders of life on this small blue planet.

My days are mostly, well, just. . . days.
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School is now in session. There is a reason I haven't danced for 52 years, and it is extremely apparent every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 9 to 10 a.m. Eric, the instructor, is patient with me. We are close in age, but he has danced since he was a boy. He finds a joy and spontenaiety in movement that I admire, but cannot emulate. My creative joys come from nurturing a garden, deciding on just the right fabric and cut for a garment, or making a delicious meal of whatever is in season. Sometimes I feel light and happy, just the right music is playing, and I do a little impromptu jig around the house. My dog barks at me when I do this; it disconcerts her. But my degree program decrees that I dance, and so I try. I will be glad enough to do a private jig when this class is over.

Friend J and I took in the annual Rattlesnake Roundup in Whigham, Georgia. I do not approve of such activities. Killing rattlesnakes merely because they are rattlesnakes is a slap in nature's face. It is wasteful, cruel, and ignorant. Nearly all rattlesnake bites happen because someone was messing with a snake which would prefer to be left alone. But J has always wanted to go, and because he is special, I joined him.

The snakes have become, apparently, merely an excuse for a "festival". They suffer and die so that vendors can sell trinkets and greasy food, so that local Slash Pine Cowboys have an excuse to wear their snakeproof boots and camouflage, to show off for their skinny, made-up girls. In an attempt to seem about something other than robbing the world of more wild things, the event featured a stout scientist "milking" the snakes for their venom. He stood in an improvised ring surrounded by wood-and-plexiglass cages. Snakes were brought to him in plastic garbage cans; he would reach in gingerly with his hooked stick, catch the poor snake behind the head, force open its mouth by pressure on the jaw hinge, and hook its fangs over a funnel to catch the creamy venom, talking to the crowd the entire time.

But he did not have a microphone; his scientific words were lost in the exclamations and chatter of two hundred people pressed around the ring trying to see past the microphone-and-camera toting press corps surrounding the scientist. Another snake wrangler, got up in camo boots and jeans and shirt, strolled around the ring holding a miserable snake by the tail, its business end looped over the wrangler's cruel metal hook-tipped pole. Every time he came close to the rail, the crowd surged back with screams and squeals, ignorantly thrilled at being fifteen feet from such a "monster" as a rattlesnake.

I expect the crowds at the Coliseum in Rome reacted similarly to manacled Christians being exhibited prior to their equally unnecessary deaths.

We will not return to Whigham, J and I.


Saw a movie with D, The Children of Men. I read the book years ago; the movie was equally unsettling, and is haunting me now the same way that the book did, then. It's not a pleasant question that P.D. James asks: "how will humans behave if they know they are the last of their species?" Her answer is, "badly". The book contains nothing much about the caging and removal of immigrants; that is obviously a twist added by the director in deference to current events. Otherwise, the film makes James' story clearer than I remember it being. D and I were forced into lighthearted commentary to one another toward the end -- two hours of such powerful emotional taxation will do that. But it is a beautifully-made film, well worth watching. It gave me the urge to re-read "Lord of the Flies", which I remember as addressing a similar question.

In other reading, I recently finished "Between Two Rivers" -- What a book! Anyone interested in natural history, ecology, and especially the south Georgia/north Florida area should read this collection of essays, from some of the finest writers in this region.

Winter finally arrived a week or so ago, after a ridiculous December. My butterfly garden finally looks like it should this time of year, brown and shriveled. I just hope the plants come back and try again, after being so completely duped about the season. Sometimes it's hard to trust after being made a fool of.

Time to hit the books; got a test tomorrow. And now it's time to figure out how to make an LJ cut!
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empty wagons [Dec. 31st, 2006|07:50 am]
As I approach the counter at the quickstop/gas station to make my purchase, a 30-something-ish guy, tall and dark but unremarkable, rushes in front of me. S'okay, I am not in a particular hurry.

The two cashiers are tolerably familiar, as I stop here a lot. The younger is curvaceous and artfully made up. Her purple thong rides above the ample behind of her low-slung jeans. A tight pink tee shirt reveals every provacative bulge, and her piled-high 'do ends in coy curls. Dangling next to them are enormous earrings proclaiming her to be "S.E.X.Y.". She is all of twenty-one, I guess.

Working the register today is the tall, thin blonde. Dark roots show above her deep bangs; her blue eyes beneath green shadow are wary, tired, and surrounded by crows feet. She has a great smile, though, revealing small, very white teeth with a gap between the front ones. Her accent is pure Southern country.

Sexy giggles as the man leaves, and nudges her co-worker. "Did you SEE what his tee shirt said?" she asks.

"What?" replies the blonde.

"It said 'Caution: extra large penis'!!" Sexy reveals, shaking her head in amazement.

"Well," Blonde answers with a roll of her eyes, "You know how an empty wagon does, 'squeak, squeak, squeak'. It's always the empty wagon makes the most noise."
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Christmas ....PASS! [Dec. 26th, 2006|06:22 pm]
It was a quiet, at-home holiday. J came over Christmas eve, we talked, ate, played board games and watched it rain. Christmas Day we traveled to A & J's place to eat some more and open our tokens of esteem for one another. J left for home from there, and my house was surprisingly empty when I got back. Not a holiday I'll reminisce fondly about.

Didn't make it to the frozen North for Christmas this year; Dad was disappointed when I phoned a week ago and told him I wouldn't be there, but since he can't remember anything for more than a few minutes at a time these days, I don't suppose there was much angst on his part. I'm the only one of his four children who stays in touch with him anyway.

We had a meaningless long-distance chat today: "How's it going with you?" "Just great! Great to hear from you!" "How is the (man-made, replaced years ago but never quite right) hip joint?" "Great! Just great! So good to hear from you!" And so on, until Catherine (Dad's wife) mercifully came on. She is tired of caretaking, sounded depressed and hopeless. This is not good. But there is nothing present-moment helpful that I can do from 3,000 miles away.

I will probably head up there at Spring Break, so Catherine can go visit her family in New Jersey. I dread it, don't want to use up my vacation time, don't want to spend that kind of money for airfare, don't want to be stuck in a house full of memories with an old man who was drunk and absent most of my childhood, who was often drunk and abusive when he was around.

But he truly, honestly, in his deepest heart of hearts wanted to be, tried to be, thought he was being, a good father. Sometimes he truly was. And when he got it right, when the alcohol and the inner demons of his own abused childhood allowed him to be, he was a fine, intelligent man who tried to share his passions with his children and to teach them about the world as he knew it. I will always miss the father he wanted to be.

And despite my lifelong attempts to exorcise him, the father that he was is very much a part of me. My father, good and bad, glows through my personality, my outlook, my approach to life and to other people, not always in a good way. Occasionally I meet someone much like him; the embers of childhood resentment glow brightly again, and the sparks fly as though there were not forty-plus years gone by.

It will be an interesting Spring Break indeed.
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Who am I? [Dec. 22nd, 2006|02:13 pm]
My Peculiar Aristocratic Title is:
Her Most Serene Highness Lady Anne the Cosmopolitan of Yockenthwait Walden
Get your Peculiar Aristocratic Title


But I already had one: Dame Anne Worthitt (widow of Sir Hardley Worthitt, Bart.), Marchioness of Sober Longley and defender of Impropriety.

Dunno who I am, now . . .
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End-of-Year Observations [Dec. 22nd, 2006|01:12 pm]
Some observations I've made, and some things I've learned (and re-learned) in the past year:

Straight As are easy to get when the subject is fascinating -- even if the class and the prof. make my eyes roll.


Siblings are great to hang out with. We dont have to explain where we're coming from, or why we're the way we are. My siblings are really neat people!


Having three dogs IS a lot more work than having just one.


I am a jealous person. I do not deal at all well with that trait.


Hacksawing the top 3" off a metal fence post is much easier to do when the post is NOT standing upright, already set in concrete.


Short hair requires a trim every 4-6 weeks to be at all attractive.


No living being can change its inborn reaction to a particular stimulus. Human beings CAN learn to slow the response long enough to evaluate the consequences, and change the reaction if necessary.
Except for me and my mouth.

Size 5/6 jeans no longer fit me.


What I really want, think I want, and say I want are not necessarily the same thing. What I actually NEED makes it an even one-third of a dozen.


I do indeed have a talent for acting. Acting is, however, much more work than I remember it being.


Politics is still boring to me, and I believe citizens have less and less influence on how our alleged representatives operate any more. But that is still no excuse for not paying attention, and voting!


A bargain is no bargain if you didn't want whatever it was in the first place.


Burning bridges is irrevocable, pointless, and extremely painful.
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Another sleepless night [Dec. 20th, 2006|06:53 am]
Why, why, why, why, why am i still allowing myself to toss and turn and conundrum and plot about something so ridiculous, so pointless, and so goddam small?! Finally arose near midnight and fired up the emachine, typed out the plots and the frustration willy-nilly, and returned to snatch about five hours' sleep. This morning we are NOT refreshed.

However, during the wee hour typefest, I lit the candle D. brought on Monday night. It is a lovely persimmon color adorned with a matching crystal and a coppery leaf; it smells soothing and sexy. (quite unlike the cheap, overly vanilla scented three-wicked horror 'it' brought for trysting -- which has been demoted from bedroom to bathroom duty, and which I should toss into the trash as another purging of this insane fixation. I'd still rather hurl the thing at 'it''s head, though).

Why the hell I can't fall asleep to sloppy grinning thoughts of D., instead of staying awake to gut-churning, furiousness over 'it', I still don't know. Am getting an inkling, though: 'it' is a miniature (in every sense of the word, praise be) version of my father, with whom I never managed to fight successfully. Yeah, I've forgiven Dad, truly in my heart of hearts. The old man is losing his marbles now anyway; his mental processes and therefore his ability to infuriate people have faded beyond recognition, like a favorite shirt that's been washed from stiff blue scratchy newness into something suitable for wiping babies' butts.

I suppose the best I can do is wish fervently that 'it' suffers the same fate as Dad, and real soon -- but I'd still like to kick his ass for him before then. That wish will eventually fade, I know. My letting it get so much control over me is sick, I know. Perhaps now that my consciousness has identified what my sub knew all along, I can move on. And get some sleep.

And pray that the next poor piece of ass 'it' starts his suave operations on is made of tougher stuff than this one.
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(no subject) [Dec. 19th, 2006|09:49 am]
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today [Dec. 18th, 2006|04:05 pm]
As i suspected it would, work today has been hugely busy -- at least compared to the past few weeks. everyone in our customer base seems to have awoken this morning and simultaneously realized that seven days from now is Christmas Day, and that they had promised to get that job printed before then.

Still, i would rather spend my time at work, working -- much as it is fun to skate around LJ, checking out new journals and investigating the journals of those who have commented on them.

I have some things i want to write, while i have the time -- which is running out, fast! only three more weeks before the spring semester begins. best get a-crackin'

And this evening i'll be heading for dinner and mel gibson's apocalypto with D. he is becoming a pleasant facet of my life: fun, intelligent, well-read and well-traveled, interested in many of the things i find fascinating; his passions are things i am interested in, too. and i feel comfortable with him, as i have not felt at ease with anyone (sadly, to include J.) in years. in fact, i WANT to be myself, warts and all, around D.

He is also a very good kisser *grins*, and we'll get to practice in just about two hours!
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my christmas present [Dec. 17th, 2006|06:50 pm]
Had a friend over this weekend, and we decided that maybe i should do a little holiday decorating after all. so we headed for the flea market in hope of finding a small tree . . . and came home with furniture instead. YES! a lovely computer armoire, and two tall bookcases. all of furniture-grade plywood, well-made and light colored. they need some tlc, a good sanding, and a coat of finish (possibly even a little stain) but they are exactly what i have wanted since i moved into this house! thank goodness friend had a truck; we got them loaded and unloaded; rearranged the living room and it looks great. the cost was just a little more than my christmas bonus from work (bless you, Boss!) and i couldn't have asked for a nicer gift.


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(no subject) [Dec. 13th, 2006|10:20 am]
Life is good.

The christmas gifting is finished; out-of-town packages went off yesterday. local stuff is acquired and wrapped. no colored lights or beribboned boughs for me this year [again]; decorating is just more trouble than a decorated home is worth to me. maybe next year . . .

But my camellias are blooming, and heavy with a winter's worth of fat buds. the butterfly garden is still bravely offering nectar, although i haven't seen a b'fly in weeks. i have requested, and will likely get, a bird feeder for christmas. maybe then the cardinals and wrens will stop scolding me when i step out into the yard.

I checked the university website this morning [and even remembered my student i.d. number and password without having to look at my card!] final grades have been posted: i got an A in every class; my cumulative gpa is 3.82, and i am on track to graduate in two more semesters. HUZZAH!!

D., my new guy-friend, is coming for dinner this evening. i even baked an apple pie last night in honor of the occasion. menu: sea scallops marinated in a lime-ginger-garlic marinade then skewered and grilled over hardwood charcoal, with an avocado and grapefruit on mesclun salad, and a basmati and pignolia pilaf. the pie for dessert, along with good conversation and perhaps a game of trivial pursuit. odd how comfortable i feel with him, even after only a few weeks.

M.C., about whom i spent considerable lj time sobbing, is still in my heart. i yearn, however foolishly, to see him again. i am still grateful for his lesson in honest communication, and am practicing it with D. teachers are everywhere, appearing when the student is ready. yeah. regret sucks. yeah, again.

It's high time to start construction on the third maid's costume for Cinderella. sure, just as soon as i clear away the mass of recycled paper and ribbons from my wrapping frenzy.

And i am looking forward to a new year of challenges, learning, loving, and some good kick-back-and-unlax time, too. meanwhile, gotta get back to work!
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My Xmas Stocking [Dec. 11th, 2006|08:09 am]
my xmas stocking )
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